I wasn't trying to be funny when I said stop writing emotions. Not to generalize an entire gender, but like .. I ask Dan all the time like "Baabes, what are you thinking" or like "Ooh, how did that make you feel?" And it isn't that he doesn't know how to communicate things, he legit does not have an answer. He just shrugs and does things. He doesn't internalize, he doesn't overthink, he just does.
I think when you start writing out emotions, you sort of go down a path of emotional complexity that leads you away from the 'type' of male you seem to struggle writing.
Write about the things they are doing, rather than how they are feeling about doing them.
EDIT
Just to be fair, your gender and sexual identity aren't necessarily linked. You want to be a super emotional straight male, that's totally fine too. They don't go hand in hand.